Mom-to-be ‘ruins’ her private gender reveal celebration, then dad’s girlfriend puts pressure on him

An expectant mother said she never wanted a gender reveal celebration – but a member of the public allegedly pressured her into doing so, leading to dramatic and still ongoing public fallout.

“I’m going to have a baby in November,” one girl wrote in a posting on social media over the weekend, which has drawn nearly 9,000 reactions and more than 1,200 feedbacks to date.

“My fiancé and I didn’t care much about the gender of our baby, so when we found out we didn’t make much noise about it,” the girl said, sharing her story on a Reddit web page called AITA. (“Am I an A-hole”).

“The only people we informed were our parents, their partners, and our siblings,” “ThrowawayGenreveal” wrote in its submission.

On the other hand, he said, “Earlier, my father’s girlfriend of three years was asking me about my plans for a gender reveal party. I have always been clear that I don’t want anyone,” the girl added.

However, “when I told them about my son’s gender, they expressed disappointment that I had not changed my mind about the party,” he said.

The girl further said, “I don’t like gender reveal. Never was, and never will be. I love baby showers, which I think feel more about the actual baby. I have never tried to hide that opinion.”

The next day, the girl said, “My father’s girlfriend invited me to her apartment for tea (my father was out of town). When I reached there, about a dozen people came out of hiding to surprise me. There were pink and blue decorations everywhere, making it very clear what was going on.

The mother-to-be said she was “standing there in shock.”

Next “My dad’s girlfriend excitedly told me they were throwing me a surprise gender reveal party.”

It appears the father’s girlfriend “took it upon herself to order a cake with colorful frosting, decorate the apartment, and invite several people over,” the girl wrote.

Of the surprise gender celebration, she said, “The guests included his mom (who I don’t get along with), some of her friends, my MIL (not my mom), and four of my friends. As I found out later, my MIL and friends were told that I had changed my mind about the gender reveal.

However, the girl insisted, “I didn’t do it.”

She added that as she stood inside the door, “I looked at everyone and said, ‘It’s a boy. You guys can go home now.'”

And she left “without looking back”, she wrote.

“A few hours later,” she countered, “my father called me, angry that I had ruined the party. He said his girlfriend had put a lot of effort, money, and love into planning it. And I should have shown respect and gratitude for this, apparently she had not stopped crying since I left.”

The mom-to-be said in her submission, “It’s been almost a week, and they’re both still upset. Even after I explain that I never wanted that party, they continue to insist that I could have eaten for an hour, or at least cut the cake.

So she asked others on stage if she was wrong for what she did and the way she felt, so she felt calmer.

Fox Information Virtual reached out to a psychologist for comment.

In an “upvoted” comment on Reddit about the situation in the government — earning nearly 11,000 votes — one editor said the mom-to-be was not wrong about her behavior and her feelings.

One wrote, “This is her (dad’s girlfriend) trying to ‘prove’ that she cares about you more than your mother, especially considering that either your mother wasn’t invited or He declined the invitation to respect your wishes.” Special person.

“He can’t seem to find a way to prove that he cares about you at all Really listening to what you want and what you don’t want,” the same person added.

Referring to someone else, “You’ve made yourself very clear how you feel about gender reveal parties. Your father’s girlfriend completely and deliberately disregarded and disrespected you.”

This original commenter added, “Sadly, the party she had planned for herself was ruined. Maybe she should have taken it a step further and not even invited you, because this party was exactly what she wanted.

And but someone else — summarizing the sentiments of many others — wrote, “You set a boundary and as soon as you saw it was broken, you removed yourself.”

This person also said, “If you had gone in, then whenever you tried to use it in the future it would have been like ‘Look it wasn’t that bad’ or ‘Why are you complaining that you went to a party. ‘is used as.’ An example of a line crossed.”